Most of us have been there. Cleaning out, repairing, moving sale, fresh paint, and creating "curb appeal". Putting a house up for sale. *sigh* Yes, it's exciting. The idea of starting fresh, a new home, new decor! But figuring out the timing of selling one home, and buying another can be tricky. And this house is giving me a run for my money!
I sold my home 2 years ago without any real hiccups. Buyers were excited, loved the home and it was a smooth sale. So I was confident when I put this house on the market that it would be a similar experience. The first weekend I had 18 showings and a full price offer by Monday evening. Yay! On to the inspection. All normal things for a 55 year-old house. A little settling, sewer rooter and scope, etc. But, the buyer became a little jumpy and decided to back out. OK, no worries. I still have time to sell it before I close on the new house.
Back on the market, tons of showings, and a couple of offers come in. First one doesn't want the solar panels (buyer must assume the lease with purchase of the home). He actually asked me to remove them. Uhh.. yeah, that costs about $20K! Next! I accepted the second offer even though it was a lower price. The timing was more important to me. Whew, onward to the next step. This buyer fully read the previous inspection report, and a Structural Engineer report, and chose to have another inspector come in. I totally understand that. I was actually present when he came in, and he had wonderful complements about the home. His report was very similar to the first one. All NORMAL. Yet, this buyer got jumpy, too. "We are buying this for our son, and we normally buy newer homes." Then why are you looking at home built in 1962??? Oy, contract cancelled.
Luckily, my new home is not contingent on the sale of this home, but boy, it'd be nice to put a chunk into the mortgage and lower my payment. I threw a little frustrated tizzy fit after hearing about the buyer backing out. After I calmed down, I realized I'm not just selling a house. I'm leaving a home.
This was MY home. My new start after my divorce. My safe haven. A place where I can control the energy, and keep it feeling comfortable and loving. And most importantly, it was the last home where I had My Boy with me. So besides making it look nice for others, I realized I also needed to comfort the home, show it my gratitude for its protection, and, finally, say goodbye.
Yes, a home is energy, and an entity all on its own that responds to who is living in it. Literally, the day I put it on the market, little things started going wrong. A broken ring on a solar tube, a broken ice maker, etc. Nothing has gone wrong with this house since I moved in, until now. And the fact that buyers are backing out. It just doesn't happen twice on one house very often. It's a gorgeous home!
After looking more deeply into the house's response, it is telling me that it is feeling abandoned. It is very loving toward my family, and is being very picky about the next people that live in it. So today, the house is back on the market again. And, Universe, I ask that you match a loving, kind buyer with this wonderful home. Love and Light
May 2, 2018. Looking back on my 30 Day journey, and WOW, a lot can happen in 30 Days!
I've healed well from the surgery. I had to take a break from working out, but I'm back at it! It feels so good to move my body, and appreciate feeling the hard work I've put in within my muscles. I used to be such a gym rat. I make do with my treadmill and body weight exercises at home for now. Maybe when I can "people" again, I'll hit the gym :)
We're still in the process of selling the house. The first buyer on my home backed out, so we've been through more showings the last week, and now have another contract. That being said, we've been forced to be away from the house for hours at a time. That means restaurant food. I like to cook, but I also like the convenience of eating out when I can't be at home. Now that the house showings are done, my goal this week is to cook healthy meals. So far, I've grilled steaks with lemon-butter green beans, and I made a pot of pasta sauce yesterday. I don't eat the pasta, just the protein (lean, grass-fed beef and sausage) with some veggies. Tonight is a yummy Paleo recipe that my family loves, bacon wrapped chicken tenders with a honey mustard glaze, and veggies or salad. I'm researching more healthy recipes, so if you have any favorites please feel free to share in the comments!
The new house is almost finished! My Girl and I can't wait to move in! Here is a photo of the new kitchen!
During this 30 Days, I've also been thinking about ways to help My Girl. She is still struggling with the loss of her brother. But we've made some positive changes for now. First, she is participating in Home Bound school with a tutor. It became too difficult for her to be around so many people, and her lack of focus due to the grief was overwhelming. She is doing really well with her tutor, and is actually enjoying what she is learning again. I also want for her to have more responsibility so she has a sense of purpose outside of her studies. So, we got her a puppy. His name is Balto, he's a Siberian Husky. We will register him as an Emotional Support Dog. He gets My Girl up and moving, and gives her something to care about again. We've already been on a hike, to the dog park, on walks, and have had lots of giggles and snuggles. He's a handful as all puppies are, but he is so sweet and loving, and all hers!
So how did I do without drinking...? I did actually have drinks with friends last weekend. But my perspective is completely changed. I'm very conscious of what and how much I drink, I don't need it like I did before. In the future, I'll have social drinks here and there, and wine with a good meal. And honestly, I have places in my body where I can feel inflammation, and it immediately acted up after reintroducing alcohol. Not worth it!
I'm glad that I took the time to cleanse my body, rest my mind, and honor my spirit again these last 30 Days. I am going to bed earlier and waking earlier. I'm more motivated, and generally just feel better. I want to thank everyone that has followed me on this journey, and for the generous amounts of support, and to those who have reached out to share their stories. I plan to continue blogging. There's always something that pops up in my life that's worth writing about! As always, Love and Light