Life after a broken relationship is never easy. One day you're in what you thought was a loving relationship, sharing your innermost thoughts and dreams, creating memories you had thought would last forever, devoting your everything into the person you love. You've built a connection with this person that dives deep into the core of your being. Then, things change. People change. Maybe it's not a healthy relationship like you thought. You part ways. But that deep connection still exists, and now it is just pain. Sometimes that pain is so much that you feel stuck with the heartbreak. How can you ever release this pain, and move on?
In a romantic relationship, not only do we have a physical and emotional connection with someone, but we also have an energetic connection. This is called a cord. We can have multiple energy cords from a single person. They can attach in our 7 basic energy centers, or chakras. When you think of this person, you can actually feel where the cord is attached inside of you. Most often it's the heart, stomach and mind. Using Reiki and visualization, I've found that people can heal from the pain, cut the painful cords, and re-create a connection that is based on love and forgiveness (of self and for them).
So give this a try-- close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Envision a container above you made with ultra-violet light. This container will capture and transmute any negative feelings, emotions and energy surrounding the relationship. Now, see your old partner in front of you. Look for any cords that connect the two of you. Most likely, there will be many. Remember which one is strongest, you'll feel it in your body. For all the other cords, envision a silver sword of light. Gently, and with love, use that sword to remove the cords from your body, and ask your partner to do the same. Keep taking deep breaths, and release the energy to your container.
The final cord is most important. Here, we re-frame the attachment from pain to love. Starting from where it is attached to you, change the cord to a golden ribbon, and send it to your partner. This golden ribbon is pure love. No judgement, no pain. It is releasing both you and your partner to a higher state of being. This ribbon opens up space for grace, forgiveness, and finally knowing that you'll be ok, and so will they. Take a few more deep breaths and feel yourself surrounded by and filled with the golden light of love. Aaahhh...
People don't often realize how helpful it is to experience energy work after heartbreak. Reiki combined with this exercise is extremely helpful. As a practitioner, I help move the negative energy out of the body, and facilitate with the cord cutting. There is hope that you will move on and be happy again. We all deserve to live with love, light, joy and bliss.